Open Declaration of Imperfections

Perfection is Stagnation

How many of you struggle with the feelings of imperfection?

Are you being held back out of fear of your imperfections?

I am!!!

So here is the deal, I need to let you know that I am struggling with being imperfect.

I’ve known that I’ve wanted to help people. This website has been with me for over 10 years and has had many changes. It’s time to stop changing it in hopes that I feel like an expert in order to share anything.

I’m not an expert in anything

But I sure do know a whole hell of a lot about a few things.

Even if I had years of training, I doubt I would ever feel like an expert. There are always other people on this planet that will have different/more knowledge even if I focus on one topic. So please forgive me if I don’t want to tout myself as an expert to gain your trust. I don’t know of any expert on real life and that’s what I want to blog about.

I really just want to have a conversation

Honestly, for right now I just want to connect with other people who can identify with the struggles of living with chronic illness and what it is that they need to fulfill life dreams. I know that we all have different needs and I’m going to say that I’m a bit lazy in wanting to assume what it is that you really need. So, talk to me. 🙂

I’m probably going to write to you like this often

Part of my roadblock is the technical side of how we are taught our blog posts need to look, feel, say, etc. Ugh!!! I was sharing with a friend my frustration and she said…. Write to your readers the way you’d write to a friend. That is EXACTLY what I really want to do honestly, imperfections and all.

I’ve been talking to you in my head for years

I have no idea who you are but, I’ve been talking to you in my head for years. I know that I can share some of my experiences with you but I also don’t want to come across as beating you up for not doing something you probably should. Hey, I know the struggles!!! I’m living them every day too. But I’ve had a wake up call slap me upside my head recently to make me want to take action about my wellness and to finally start working on my own dreams more (This blog being one of them).

I consider myself an Intuitive Dream Weaver

I’ve helped many achieve their own dreams in person but my physical ability to do that is not there right now. I want to continue to help people achieve their dreams in life, especially those with chronic illness. There is still hope, even if your dream has to be modified, let’s figure out a way to get you there!  

Our biggest roadblock are our own thoughts

I know this. You probably know this too.

It’s not easy to change the way we talk to ourselves. I get it, there are people who say, “just think positive.”. I don’t know about you but I sure do feel the urge to be really sarcastic and reply, “Don’t you think it if was THAT simple for ME that I wouldn’t already being doing that?” The statement is still true, I hope to help you take baby steps to change that conversation in your head. It’s easy to throw out expressions, it’s more difficult to help teach someone to do it when you don’t understand why they can’t. I understand why you can’t.

So here’s the deal…

This is probably the WORST decision ever by posting this according to experts. But, I need to share my fears with you so that I can get past them and let this blog become what I want it to be – driven by it’s readers.

I don’t want to assume anything. I want to encourage you to comment on posts as to how it was helpful or if you have further questions, ask!

Here are some things you can expect from me that I’m fearful about

I suck at photography. But I do my best and hopefully I’ll get better over time.

I ramble sometimes and I need that. (like this post)

At first I may be inconsistent in my posts. I’m dealing with chronic illness like the rest of you, so please be gentle with me. <3 But I’m going to work on a way to get better at it. I overthink everything (can you blame me with how we are told we have to be perfect to post anything?)

I want this to be a journey together. I’m sure there are plenty of things that I can learn from my readers as much as you can learn from me and my experiences. We’re in this together.

We are told never to talk about ourselves and yet I see some really awesome bloggers out there and that’s all they talk about. I follow them because I enjoy their story. I’m going to talk about myself in hopes that you enjoy mine or that it’s helpful in some way. It’s how I relate to people, if I have a similar experience then it makes me feel like I have a closer connection and in sharing my experience, I hope that it helps someone not feel alone.

I’m scared shitless of trolls, grammar Nazis and others who seem to get their thrills out of putting other people down for not having the same level of knowledge. I understand that I don’t write the best but at least I’m giving it a go. Give me credit for that.

Why do I want this blog so bad?

I haven’t had the best life up until pretty much 2016 when we acquired The Wobble House. I’ve gone through some shit and I feel like I could help others who are going through the same get through it. I want them to know that it may seem like a lifetime at the moment but there are brighter skies in the future.

What is my mud?

Fibromyalgia/Chronic Pain, Depression, Anxiety (HOLY HELL A LIST OF THESE). I hit rock bottom in November 2016. Seriously rock bottom, physically, emotionally and mentally. I’m still recovering but getting stronger in all areas every day.

What am I doing about it?

I finally found a doctor that started exactly where I really have wanted to forever – my gut.

Currently I am working through the Autoimmune Protocol Diet to identify foods that may be causing pain/illness.

I am choosing to take a Naturopathic approach to my healthcare with herbal supplements.

I see an acupuncturist and a chiropractor as part of my healthcare team.

I’m seeing an amazing mental health therapist. Along with this I go to a weekly water group for mental health therapy. We practice Ai Chi for relaxation.

My amazing man bought me a trike!!! I just rode it to my water class for the first time last week and it kicked my ass but in a good way!

I’m using our newly acquired urban homestead as therapy. This is a big one for me. Physically, mentally and emotionally this is by far one of my favorite therapies.

I continue to educate myself on new techniques to try.

I’m revisiting my knowledge of nutrition to slap myself upside the head and stay on track!

I listen to extremely loud and intense music as much as possible. Music moves my soul. It was one of the biggest factors in my recovering from my breakdown.

Technically I’m ahead of a really big goal I set for myself

When I had my breakdown, I didn’t know if I would ever be able to care for myself again. I had no idea if I would ever get past the feeling like my brain could only function at the level of a 3 year old.

When I finally felt that there was hope I gave myself until 2018 to start my blog. I say start my blog because even though I’ve had this domain for over 10 years, I wasn’t really doing what I should have been and it wasn’t what I wanted it to be.

So here I am… June of 2017 and I’m blogging. Scared shitless but still doing it.

If you don’t mind my imperfections, I don’t mind yours.

What’s your story? What dreams are you working on? What dreams do you want to work on?

Let me know in the comments!

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Creating a Wellness Plan

Creating a Wellness Plan that works for you

Creating a wellness plan can feel overwhelming, especially when you live with chronic illness.

Living with a chronic illness, there is so much to work on, where do you start?

Talking to doctors over the years and going to various support groups, they all say to get yourself moving. Too many times I have said, “Easier said than done!”.

Awareness about food sensitivities have come into my life recently. I have become more knowledgeable about how the food I put into my body affects my pain level and other general feeling of wellness more than I thought. I needed a plan to increase my water and a way to track new habits.

Who is lying on the couch reading this and not wanting to get up because they are too depressed? Come on now…. I know you’re out there because I can’t possibly be the only one who has ever felt this way. The struggle is real, you’re not alone. I’m here to help.

There are three areas right there for myself. And that’s just the beginning. I understand the overwhelm you may be having!

You can do this!! You can, I promise you.

Start Small

I am so serious here. This is not a race and we don’t want you to get overwhelmed. Pick something that seems small but may be more beneficial than you think. Pick only one to start with. I picked moving more.

When I started attempting to move more, I started by walking around my home during commercials while watching television. Walking around your home instead of your neighborhood is still walking. Start somewhere comfortable, inside your home is OK!

Keep it short

I’d love to say that even today I can successfully walk around non stop for 30 minutes, but the reality is that I can’t always. What I CAN do is walk for a few minutes at a time several times a day.

Even if you are walking outside, keep it a short time when you start out. You don’t want to walk for 15 minutes, end up in pain and then realize you still have to walk that 15 minutes back home. If you feel you can walk 10 minutes, set a timer and walk 5 minutes, then walk back.

Be realistic in the time it will take YOU

The other day I was looking at some recipes and the prep time made me laugh. No, a 10 minute meal prep will take me way longer than 10 minutes to prep. I have problems with my hands and I need to sit to prep most meals. Even my boyfriend looked at them and laughed. I’m ok with several steps throughout the day to get a meal on the table for my nights to cook. We are eating better and saving money.

If your goal is a distance goal then don’t worry about how long it will take you, focus on how far you can get instead, again keep it SHORT.

I had a goal of reaching a walking bridge in a neighborhood we used to live in. It didn’t seem THAT far to walk. I had no time frame in mind as we were walking in the evening. I made it, it took me a half hour to get there and I had to walk that half hour back home but I made it. When we got home, we googled it and found out that it had been one and a half miles round trip! I never did it again!

I was in so much pain by the time we reached the bridge but I was determined to make that bridge to prove I could do it. Prove it to who?

Do it for you

When setting your action, make it for you. If you go into an action plan half hearted because someone else has an expectation of you, you’ll not get as much out of the action.

That walk to the bridge? I did it so that the next time I got a call from a birth family member, I could share my accomplishment in hopes that they would finally see me as good enough, not lazy. I was wrong.

Modify, Modify, Modify

Don’t be afraid to modify your goal as you learn your abilities. Maybe walking to the end of the block is still too much. If you live in an apartment, try walking around your building instead.

Maybe three times a week is too much for now. It’s ok to start out with once a week and build up. Anything you may do beyond what you are doing right now is a step (ha! literally) in the direction of better wellbeing.

Here are the steps to creating your action plan

 

  • What are you going to do?
  • How much are you going to do?
  • When are you going to do it?
  • How many days a week are you going to do it?

 

Example: This week, I will walk (what)

around the block (how much)

before lunch (when)

three times (how many).

I’ve created my first printable to help you out! (Click on the image to download the printable)

Click to print Action Plan

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